“I'm a queen, nuff respect

Treat me like a lady

And, no, my name ain't yo and I am not your baby

I'm looking for a guy who's sincere

One with class and savoir faire”

Queen Latifah really said it all here. Be respectful, be sincere. Show some class. And if you don’t know what savoir faire is, I looked it up: knowledge of just what to do in any situation; tact. So, that. Be tactful and be appropriate. Be fly.

This space is created for people going through menopause. If you are going through menopause, welcome, this is for you! If you want to learn more about supporting people as we go through menopause, welcome. If you are curious about what your future menopause will be like or you are here to talk about what your menopause was like, welcome. If you are here to stir shit, trust when I say I will burn down your fucking house. I am experiencing menopause. The fucks I have left to give are plummeting in number alongside my estrogen. Go ahead, make my day.

This project is an evolving co-creation. The goal is to create a massive, navigable, relatable resource for people in menopause.  I am looking for people’s direct experience, so share yours. If you are an expert, share your research and wisdom. When sharing, listening, and reading, try to differentiate between a fact, an opinion, and an experience. When possible, share sources. Be curious and respectful.

This space is for all of us. Yet, as we go through this together, please recognize that we are not all having the same experience. Our culture and even our own minds have been colonized since birth with racism, classism, misogyny, ableism, heteronormativity, homophobia, transphobia, fatphobia, and biases for and against every imaginable category - with the chief purpose to divide us. Ideally, we all get along here amazingly well and everyone feels seen, heard and accepted. Should I inevitably fall short and say something dumb or insensitive, I am open to hearing about it (wtfopause@gmail.com). If possible, try to continue holding me in regard long enough for me to hear your grievance and make amends to you or the group you speak up for. If possible, give me a chance to provide you with a meaningful apology and reparation. This is a learning process. I am in progress. If someone else in the community is creating grief for you, let me know. There is a way to co-exist, even in disagreement. However, harmony must not be arrived at at the expense of justice.

I could go on all day but I bet your mother taught you some manners and you know how to be graceful. Let’s be wise and kind.